Loss of Erection During Anal Sex
Question: I love to have my ass penetrated by my wife with a dildo. I love the stretching, rubbing, and the kinky act of anal sex. The only problem is that my erection will get very soft. I can masturbate to get off but I'm still fairly soft when I ejaculate.
Is it because of the pressure on my prostate or because I'm concentrating on staying relaxed enough to take the dildo? Is there a way to maintain my erection while being penetrated, cock ring? Viagra?
Answer: Your erection goes soft because less blood is getting into your penis. Why would this happen? The most likely reason is that while you enjoy taking a dildo anally, mixed in with the excitement and kinkiness is a good deal of stress. Stress causes the arteries to constrict, limiting blood flow, including blood flow into the penis.
My suggestion: Stay as relaxed as possible. Before sex, take a hot bath or shower. Include some whole-body massage in your lovemaking and also breathe deeply and slowly throughout sex including during anal play. If you stay relaxed, there's a good chance your erection will stay firmer. If it doesn't stay firm, a cock ring or erection medication might help.
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