Experimenting but am I Bi?
Question: I’m a 26-year-old man. Single. Hetero. Yesterday a friend and I fooled around in his car. We kissed and touched, and he gave me a blowjob. I do not see myself as gay.
I want a wife and kids. So does he. I don’t want to have sex with guys. What happened yesterday was just experimenting, but kinda fun. We plan to meet up this morning at his house to talk about things. I don’t think I want it to happen again. But I’m not sure. I consider myself straight. But maybe I’m bi. But doesn’t being bisexual mean that I want sex with men and women? Yeah, I had sex with my friend, but I have no desire to have sex with men. The thing yesterday just happened. Am I bi?
Answer: If you have no desire for sex with men, but then you fool around sexually with men, you're either (1) straight but more sexually experimental than most, or (2) bisexual. Now, "bisexual" doesn't mean you're interested in both genders equally. Some bi folks are, but most prefer one gender to the other. It's quite possible to be bisexual, with your personal mix being, say, 95 percent interested in women, and 5 percent interested in men. We suggest that you look into your heart and figure out whom you desire sexually. Plenty of men who identify as straight and who are happily married to women have some sexual interest in men. Perhaps you're part of that group. Or perhaps what happened was a one-time thing that won’t happen again. That’s up to you. It sounds to us like you’re straight with a little bi curiosity.
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