Am I bisexual?
Question: I'm a 35-year-old heterosexual woman. My question: Is it normal for a woman who is not lesbian to have sexual curiosity and fantasies about other women. I have never been with another woman but often wonder what it would be like. Is this normal? Should I explore this possibility further?
Answer: You're perfectly normal in our book. Sexual orientation is not just an either/or affair. Some people are 100 percent hetero with no interest in or curiosity about same-sex lovers.
Others are 100 percent homosexual, with no interest in the opposite sex. But many people, you among them, fall somewhere in between. Many people are basically hetero with some homo interest or basically homo with some hetero interest. This is normal. We suggest you try to relax about it and enjoy this aspect of your sexuality as a special gift -- more people to appreciate and fantasize about even if you never act on your fantasies.
Should you act on them? That's not for us to say. That's for you to decide -- and you alone. Think about it. Fantasize about it. Take your time. Figure out what you'd like to do. If you'd like a good resource that may help you make up your mind, visit Bisexual Internet Resources on the Web: www.bisexual.org.
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